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#IStoppedMyself (From Cheating: Part 1)
“1. “I cheated in my past relationships, and I tried to hide it, and failed horribly. It destroyed my relationship and first marriage. With my current wife, I’ve been presented the same opportunities to cheat, and I just think about how it’s not worth it. My wife means more to me than one night with some stranger or keeping a side chick. As a man, if you cheat it says a lot about how much you feel your relationship is worth.”
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2. “I am bisexual; I love women more, and my husband did not know about that side of me for years. He did suspect me to be ‘having an affair’ though – he never really caught me in the act. I felt very bad about having to keep things from my husband, whom I dearly loved. The woman I am with is also very good friends with my husband, a kind of family friend thing. So, this best friend comes to visit a couple of times a week, and in one of such weeks, I suggested a silly idea I knew my husband wouldn’t be in favor of. I wanted us to have a threesome with her. She has been my best friend since we were in our middle teens, and are both bi, but never really knew it until we were married. I am a bit of a voyeur, so that week, I instructed my husband to f**k her, while I watched and masturbated. He refused to heed.
I confessed being in a sexual relationship with our friend, and begged my husband for forgiveness, and also made him understand that, I did not want to keep lying and cheating and keeping things from him again.
He gave in finally to my plea, and even confided in me that dawn that, watching me watch him and get off on it was one of the most amazing things ever. He couldn’t stop, and came twice inside of our friend (who has thankfully had her tubes tied). Later, my husband and I did it again because we both got turned on talking about it, and our friend came in to get her cane (she’s totally blind), and heard us and came over and joined. We’re not as young as we used to be, and we all fell asleep after that, all cuddled up, naked. My husband woke up to our friend playing with his dick, and they asked me if I wanted to get up and do it again, but I said “no!” because I was really tired. I asked them to go ahead, and they just did it right there while I was trying to sleep next to them… which was so f**king hot. I did him again the next morning at the thought of it.
That was how come I was able to stop sneaking around and ‘cheating’. I told the truth to my husband. He understood my situation, though he doesn’t really like the whole idea of sharing.”
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3. “I am a liar, and a cheat. I have been unfaithful over the years in my marriage. I love my wife very much (I think), that is why I do everything possible to hide my actions from her. If you go on my Facebook, you see how best I try to promote my love for my wife, and seem to be doing everything together, with her: taking so many pictures of us, and tagging her, etc. That’s my way of staying disciplined. Else, I will always mess up again and again, when I leave home or travel. It’s not been easy for me at all, since I love to have affairs to spice my manhood. Sometimes, I feel a man ought to have more than one woman – to stay sane.”
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4. “I’ve been cheated on so many times, and it hurts, Dave. It sucks! It’s basically the worst feeling you could ever have in a marriage, and even though I forgave my husband, I keep carrying his mistakes with me every time we’re together, and no matter how hard I try to trust him, there’s still a small part of me that doesn’t. That, is the only reason why, if for some reason I ever find myself tempted to cheat, (which I have been tempted, many times, by both married and single men) I remind myself of how bad it hurt when my husband did it to me.
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5. “I was offered a banking job on condition that I get her pregnant. She was the HR for one of the big banks, super rich and said she could easily help me if I agreed. She drove and still drives a range with a fat salary. I was tempted to sleep with her, not because of her large purse but because she knew I was married and have a baby girl, which is to say that she was ready to conceal our ‘dark agenda’ and also because I badly needed a job.
The temptation was large and looked an easy one to take without any one knowing. Just when I was about accepting the condition, I remembered my wife and her kindness. I stared at the diesel wrist watch she gave me as a birthday gift. It dawned on me that I couldn’t repay her with such an act, no matter how secretive it was. I got a job two weeks after rejecting.
Today I am an online IT consultant for a multimillion dollar firm in the US. My salary goes through that same bank and she now realizes she can’t bully me with her purse because now I also have a wallet.”
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6. “I used to keep a girlfriend that I always went to, when I was in a bad mood. There were times I would even prefer sleeping at her place, than to be home to my wife and kids. She treated me like a king. While she was presenting me with solutions and ideas and fun beyond measure, my wife would rather nag, and complain, and accuse me of this and that, and make life so complicated for me. I found peace only in the arms of my girlfriend. Until she fell ill. She was pregnant, and the fathers of the pregnancy all showed up at the hospital to check on her. Yeah, fathers! I had to advice myself.
That wasn’t even the issue, we found out she was HIV+, and the doctor was advising all of us to get tested. I couldn’t do the test. I prefer not to know. I have been faithful to my wife since then. I don’t feel the need to want to cheat anymore.”
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7. “I had this crush for my wife’s maid of honor at our wedding. She is like a sister to her. My wife knows her friend is my taste of lady. Dark, slim, nice lips and beautiful. Not to say my wife is not all these. Well, I started flirting with her and the response was good or so I thought. I even arranged for her to come give me a massage one day after work because my wife was at my mom’s. She agreed but in the ninth hour I decided against it.
I knew in my heart there will be more than a massage if she had come. Moreover my fear was the feeling of disappointment if she had taken all my advances on a lighter note and I had disgraced myself to her. We still talk. I call her ‘dear’, ‘babe’ and all the sweet stuff but all that with a clear conscience now.”
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8. “My wife was sexually abused by an Ex-boyfriend, and also a few very bad relationship experiences when she was young and dating. These experiences made it hard for her to be sexual with me when we met and married. Dave, I was always patient with her and never pushed the subject of intimacy. I think she somehow realized that I was intentionally being understanding of her, and it really hit her that I would never force her, or hurt her, and that I loved her so much that, despite having an almost pathologically huge libido, I was never going to make her feel like she had to do anything, or feel bad for not doing anything.
I made this new friend that was always engaging me in conversations that, later turned, sexual. I started desiring for her and actually wanted to f**k her. We agreed to meet to put plans into motion, when my wife, accidentally, called my phone to ask where I was. I couldn’t lie to her – so I told her I was about to have sex with a lady friend. My honesty did not only make her feel safe, but it turned her on something fierce. She asked me not to sleep with her, and then come home. I was in the shower, when she sneaked in there, knowing that I keep my eyes closed pretty much the whole time I’m in the shower, and (keeping in mind she isn’t one for blowjobs) said,
“I love you”
And then, suddenly started going down on me like it was her last meal. I had never cum from a blowjob before that and rarely have since. I grabbed her, and returned the favor on shelf of the tub. We got into it on the bed after that, and then in the kitchen later. I made passionate love to my wife, I slept 14 hours that night.
My wife got pregnant, which I’d always been attracted to anyway. A few days ago we were into it, and I was in that zone where it takes a wonderfully long time to climax. I was holding back every time I started, and she was working on her third orgasm, when we came simultaneously, and I had a full orgasm, overlapped with ejaculation, and then overlapped with a second orgasm. I have had full orgasms before, but this was just straight up epic.
Watching and feeling me writhe turned her heat up, which pushed her into a 4th orgasm, which only increased my sensation, and it circled like that for about an unknowable amount of time. My afterglow was so full of endorphins that taking a deep breath made me feel like I might cum again, and stretching my torso was absolute heaven.”
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9. “I was on a business conference with colleagues in my work field, and there were thousands of people who were all my age-mates, all in my profession, and all had a significant amount of ambition for the same things I did. Obviously, there were hotel rooms, and places where my husband never would’ve known had I slept with one of these thousands of people, nor would the news ever get back to him because he would have no idea who any of these people were.
I got drinks with one of cute guys, just me and him, and I definitely did not tell him I was married – while doing so. I felt terrible the entire time, every sip of my drink I just kept thinking what the hell am I doing? And every minute that went by when he’d hit on me, I kept wondering why I wasn’t stopping him. I basically let it get as far as it could before I told him that I was going back to my room alone. I think I just wanted to flirt with that line, literally and figuratively. I didn’t cheat, but I just wanted to see how close I could come to it without actually doing it. Hmmm!”
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10. “I’d slept with her before; she is my Ex-girlfriend. She is extremely attractive. 5 foot even, about 95 lbs. A tiny thing but so curvy. Brilliant black eyes and straight black hair to her back. We hadn’t talked much for a while, then she invited me to come see her at work one weekend. She worked at a bar, but it was a really nice place. It was a slow night, maybe Six (6) people there, mostly older gentlemen. She gave me free beer and hot wings that were perfect. We chatted while she worked, and she texted me the naughtiest things.
Anticipation built for hours! I had an idea what was coming, but who can be sure?
When the last man left she went into the back and was puttering around. She then called out asking for my help. I went back into an office area and she was in her underwear. Dave, I almost wanted to destroy the desk. I mean that literally. It was bent. I wanted to do her, also over the bar, and the pool table. She wasn’t fantastic “in bed” as far as I can remember. Just good. But she was incredibly hot.
I couldn’t have sex with her because I chose not to. I love my wife, and I am trying my best to respect her wherever I go.”
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11. “The kind of work I do takes me out of Accra, a lot. And in each region, I have this ‘company’ or f**k buddy I keep in the night at my hotels for while I am there. These guys are ridiculously cute and educated. I was in the Northern region for a project, I was supposed to spend Three (3) nights there, and I needed my Northern man. So I was texting him in the Uber from the Tamale airport to my hotel. He happened to be in the same part of town as my hotel, so I somewhat (but not really) jokingly said,
“I have two hours. Wanna fuck?”
He was a little hesitant because he was originally on the way to the gym, so he was dressed casually and hadn’t put on anything formal. I told him I didn’t mind, but if he was uncomfortable that we could just wait until Saturday like we originally planned. He said he’d come over.
So I got a quick shower while he was on the way, and he got there not even 45 minutes after I checked in. Even cuter in person than I last saw him. Big soft lips, short dark hair, big eyes, great body. He took a quick shower, came out, we talked and flirted for a good 10 minutes, then was about to get into it. He had big, full, firm chest. They were really spectacular, maybe the nicest ones I’d ever played with. An unusually big, round ass for a man. Tiny waist (probably because of the weight lifting). Really fantastic body.
His mouth felt like heaven. I was in the process of giving him one of the best blowjobs, if not the best, I’d ever given a man, when he collapsed on me. He wouldn’t move or make any sound. He had passed out!
My husband kept calling my phone when we were rushing him to the nearest hospital. I never cheated on my husband again. It’s been Six (6) years since that incident.”
“There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” Proverbs 14:12 KJV
From the inbox of David Papa Bondze-Mbir
By Savannahnews
